In today’s digital age, romance is becoming increasingly artificial—sometimes literally. Modern dating trends have strayed far from God’s plan for love, replacing genuine relationships with fleeting connections, deception, and even artificial intelligence. With the rise of AI-powered dating scams, virtual partners, and widespread burnout from endless swiping, many are left questioning: Is this what love was meant to be?
AI and the Rise of Fake Love
Online dating has never been more dangerous. With the advancement of AI, chatbots are now engaging in conversations, sometimes indistinguishable from real people. In 2023, a cybersecurity company found that bot attacks on dating apps surged by a staggering 2,000% in just one year. Many users are unknowingly forming emotional connections with AI-generated personas, only to realize later that they were manipulated by algorithms designed to steal personal information or money (CNA)
God created us for real, human relationships—ones rooted in honesty, sacrifice, and commitment. As Genesis 2:18 reminds us, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Yet, in our digital world, people are replacing authentic companionship with AI-generated interactions, abandoning the pursuit of self-giving love for the illusion of effortless connection.
The Epidemic of Tinder Burnout
Swipe-based dating apps were meant to make finding love easier, but instead, they have led to an epidemic of emotional exhaustion. A 2024 study found that many users feel disillusioned and discouraged by the endless cycle of ghosting, superficial matches, and meaningless conversations (Psychology Today). Instead of fostering stable, Christ-centered relationships, these platforms encourage people to view potential partners as disposable, leading to frustration and loneliness.
Pope Francis has warned against a “throwaway culture” that treats people as objects to be used and discarded. This mentality is now pervasive in modern dating, where individuals are constantly searching for the “next best thing” rather than working to build something lasting. As Catholics, we are called to approach relationships with patience and virtue, not as a game of instant gratification.
Love, According to God’s Design
In contrast to these trends, God’s vision for love is radically different. St. Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 that love is patient, kind, and selfless. It is not based on a quick swipe or a perfectly crafted AI-generated response but on a deep, sacrificial commitment to another person.
To return to this vision, we must reclaim relationships from the digital chaos and refocus on genuine, Christ-centered connections. This means prioritizing virtue, honesty, and intentionality in dating, rather than relying on impersonal algorithms to dictate our love lives.
In a world of AI boyfriends, scams, and dating burnout, we must remember: Love is not meant to be easy or instantly gratifying. It is meant to be real.
